Today was nice, slept late, didn't get called to sub :-( but laid out of work. Had a good day with tom, Did laundry, dishes, worked around the house. Did things that need to be done. Then the girls came home. Things went downhill from there. Tom and I decided that we needed to talk to the girls about the way things were done around the house and the way they had been doing things and treating each other. We spent almost an hour with them. I'm not sure they got the point.
I have been way to lenient with them, letting them get away with not doing things, not making them do chores, letting them have "snack" up until dinner time, letting them make deals with each other to get the other one to do what one was told, letting them argue there way out of chores, letting them have priviledges before they got chores done. You know what I mean. I'm just so tired of it all.
Tom and I decided that instead of doing "chores" they would have "duties". When all "duties" are done, they can have priviledges, like computer time and telephone time, stuff like that (Sher if you're reading this and can think of any other priviledges let me know) I am so tried of mouthing off and not getting stuff done and feeling like an 11 yr old is taking advantage of me!
L has been making me feel like such a bad mom lately, its not even funny! If she even knew, that child has no clue! Of course NONE of HER friends have chores, and NONE of HER friends have to do anything and of course, they all have as much money as they could possibly want! And "our house is awful", and "maybe if she liked where she lived she'd want to keep it clean", yes she said exactly that, and yes I had to restrain myself from knocking her backwards.
And I have been giving more thought to D living with Mom & Dad, but Tom doesn't want to do that, because "she is our responsibility". I don't know anymore wheather I think it's a good idea or its just me coppin' out. I just don't know anymore. And I don't know how permanant it would be. I need the wisdom of Soloman.
I don't remember making life this hard for my parents. And I know I sure as hell didn't argue about chores, every Saturday, that damn bathroom was clean, by me, wheather it needed it or not, wheather I liked it or not. No questions. No arguements! Why can't I get my kids to do that. I am to much of a wimp. I give in too much. I know its's true, and so do they. I just need to be strong.
HELP ME!!!!!!!! Need cigarettes and Kaluha. Going to store to get cigs to go with my Kaluha.